Can sex be used to help a break up broken heart?

By Tuva Novar

Whenever a relationship ends- especially one which lasted a long while and was looking like it would be the perfect one- the devastation is quite intense. You begin to question a lot of things, including whether or not it was your fault that the relationship ended and how you could have tried to prevent the outcome.

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Sadly, most of these thoughts only take you so far. As a matter of fact, they tend to be more detrimental than helpful, and while it is understandable that you could feel bad for a few days or weeks, you will eventually need to get up and get back to life

When responding to a breakup, there are several things you could do; sit home and watch movies until you’re ready to get out there again, soak yourself into work to forget your troubles, drink, eat without limits, etc.

Well, one of the popular coping mechanisms is sex as well. There’s an old saying that goes, “The best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else.”

Rebound sex, which many believe is casual sex that will help you ease through the pain of a bad breakup, is the post-relationship coping mechanism that thousands of people eventually resort to. So, if you choose to have a hookup instead of eating intensely as your breakup mechanism, you should at least be happy that you’re not the only person who does this,

Researchers at the University of Missouri were able to look intently into just how pervasive the phenomenon of rebound sex is. In a study, they discovered that 3 percent of the total 170 respondents ha engage rebound sex within the first month of her breakup.

However, while the report showed that many people actually engage in the act to get over an ex, it didn’t answer whether rebound sex could be helpful or if it just goes on to damage the healing process the ore. Is rebound sex a great way to begin the healing process, or will it just make you feel good for the while an leave you feeling sick?

Well, the truth is that rebound sex is much of the latter.

First off, don’t get anything wrong; rebound sex can be great, and in a lot of situations, it actually is. However, when you think of how any rebound sex encounters lead to actual relationships, you will begin to have second thoughts about whether or not to engage in it.

When trying to get over a bad breakup, the goal should be healing in such a way that you are free of any baggage and, if the time comes, enter into a separate relationship and see if you can build things with this new person. Rebound sex, while great, isn’t coming from a place of trying to build; all you want to do is have sex and forget the woes of your heartbreak for a while, but when you’re done, you might not feel much better.

So, the verdict is this; rebound sex is not bad. In some cases, it could be recommended. However, you need to know when to stop and look back at the person you are having sex with. If you see yourself building a relationship with him, then you should tell him and see where it goes.

If you get hung up on the rebound sex for way too long, it just ends up wasting your own time.