In a Lesbian or Gay Relationship; Who Will Be The Wife?

By Alicia Goodspring

In a heterosexual marriage, the woman is usually the wife, however, in some heterosexual relationships, the roles are reversed. Several Gay and Lesbian couples live their lives the way heterosexual couples do; they go to work, provide for their family, and love each other. They either divide the bills or chores amongst each other. They respect their family and make them a priority.

In a Gay or Lesbian marriage, both wives and husbands could work. In the ancient days, men were the breadwinners, they worked and provided for their families while women stayed at home and cared for the children.

However, we are in a new era where both married men and women work to provide for their families. Gay and Lesbian couples, who are married, also have to work to provide for their families. When you attend a heterosexual wedding ceremony, you already know who the wife is.

However, when you see same-sex couples, you may wonder who the wife is in the relationship. If you ever had this thought, you are not alone. Most people often wonder who the wife is in a gay or lesbian relationship. So, if you are in a gay or lesbian marriage and someone walks up to you and asks you who the wife is in your relationship.

Please do not be upset. If they are someone close to you, tell them you are both wives or husbands! In the bedroom, roles could be reversed between same-sex couples.
If you want to know who the wife is in a lesbian or gay marriage, the answer is in the definition of ‘Wife’ and ‘Husband.’

Who is a wife?

Wife; a female partner in a marital relationship.

Who is a husband?

Husband; is a male partner in a marital relationship.

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Still, wondering who the wife is in same-sex marriage?

You don’t need to assign roles to same-sex couples: 

Gays and Lesbians can both be husbands or wives if they want to. Gay men refer to their partner as ‘husband,’ you will never hear a gay man say ‘this is my wife’ when he is married to a man. The same applies to lesbian couples. Married lesbians refer to their partner as ‘wife or spouse.’ Both lesbian wives could decide to carry the pregnancy if they wished to have a baby. And when gay men adopt children, the one who stays home to watch over the kids doesn’t automatically become a ‘wife’ or ‘mommy.’ The gay man who chose to stay at home with the kids is still a husband, and the children will refer to him as ‘dad, pops or daddy.’

There are masculine gay men, and there are also fem gay men, but they are both husbands if they are married. The most essential thing in every relationship or marriage is that the couple loves each other. It is also vital that they have mutual respect for each other, and are committed to their relationship or marriage.

Gay and Lesbian couples do the house chores equally.

Usually, all the house chores fall on the woman in a heterosexual relationship because she is the wife. Traditionally, the wife carries the pregnancy and takes care of the house and kids whether she has a day job or not. But gay couples divide their house chores equally. Gay men and lesbians do the tasks they prefer. If one partner does not like to cook, the other partner can cook. Gay men don’t just come back home from work and sit on the couch while their ‘wife’ serves their meal and gives them a back rub.

Also, in a lesbian relationship, the wives share the chores equally. They both work hard to keep their homes clean. Whoever gets home first can prepare dinner or order takeout. The bills are also paid equally or paid by a partner if the other partner doesn’t have a job.

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The choice to be a stay at home mom or dad in same-sex relationships is the decision of both partners.

Equality means a lot to both gays and lesbians. A lesbian wife wouldn’t get mad if she comes back home from work, and dinner isn’t ready. When a partner must stay at home, it will be a joint decision. The partner who makes more money may continue to work. Or the partner who enjoys taking care of the house may volunteer to stay at home or work from home.

When a gay man or a lesbian decides to be a stay at home, mom or dad, they will discuss it with their partner and reach an agreement. A decision like who carries the pregnancy, who does what chores and so on is entirely the choice of the couples involved.

Same-sex couples use the term ‘Husband’ or ‘wife’ to show that they are married.

In same-sex marriage, there are two husbands and of course, two wives. When gay couple refers to each other as ‘husband’ or ‘wife’ they are merely trying to let you know that they are married. It doesn’t mean that one of them gets to be a housewife while the other works.

Like there are different types of heterosexual couples and families, there are also different types of lesbian and gay couples. Some same-sex couples assign roles to each other while some don’t. In some gay marriages, both men work while in some gay marriages, only one partner works. 

Whether there are children in a same-sex marriage or not, you should remember that there are two husbands or two wives in the relationship who loves and cares for each other. Gay and lesbian couples hate it when people try to assign gender roles to them.

In conclusion, there is no need to assign gender roles to same-sex couples. Gay and lesbian couples do their house chores. Equally, the choice to be a stay at home mom or dad is decided by both couples. Lastly, same-sex couples refer to each other as husband or wife to signify that they are married.

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