Question
My partner and I choose to abstain for a while, but I’m constantly horny. What can I do to help?
Abstinence is becoming a hot topic among adults in relationships these days, because a lot of people are getting in on it. Abstinence definitely has its benefits as well.
No one will tell you how to live your life, so if you and your partner decide to say away from sex until you get married, that is fine.
However, urges still come every now and then, and you need a way to satisfy those urges.
With that in mind, you need to know that calming your sex drive down by masturbating might not work. Why? Well, it is the body.
When you climax, several things happen; your body gets a rush of hormones that cause massive pleasure, and you get even more bounded to the activity.
When you combine oxytocin and vasopressin (two hormones), you get a feeling that is so good, you just want to keep repeating the action. For someone trying to calm the feeling of sex down, this might not be the best choice.
Some people also believe that you can calm your urges by doing as much as you can without going all the way. The problem with this is that the human body has been designed to want to see things through. So, leaving yourself wanting more won’t work here.
While in a celibate relationship, one thing you need to get into your mind is that it is impossible not to have flashes of sexual s desire. However, because you have chosen to abstain, you will need to drown out the thoughts and feelings. At the end of the day, abstaining from wha you’re not thinking about is easy. So, try not to think about the situation for long.
Also, it helps if you are able to find something that you can give your all to. The truth is that as you get busier, you throw in your time, energy, and dedication to something. Ergo. You have less time and mental ability to think about the urges that you have. It might be a momentary fix, but it helps.
