Ways to get excited before sex

By Tuva Novar

Sexual intercourse is great. There is no doubt about that. The feeling of your body pressed against that of your partner is a form of solace in itself, and arousal can only make things better.

However, a lot of people tend to have issues with getting excited about sex. It could be due to stress or just general tiredness, but whatever it is, these tips will help put you in the right mood:

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Hit the gym

There is a rather amazing effect that comes from taking a quick jog or exercising. You feel good about yourself, and this will also put you in the mood to burn some calories in bed as well. A sweat session (followed by a cold bath, of course), makes you feel more excited, and it also gets your endorphins (hormones that out you in the mood before you have sex) primed as well.

Of course, it should only be a light workout. You don’t want something that will have you too tired to enjoy sex. You could also have the workout session with your partner as a great prelude to sex (or just an excuse to spend more time together). You will both be wearing less clothing, so you could take a peak of your partner's body and get turned on."

Hold each other tight for a bit

Studies have actually shown that when you hug your partner for at least half a minute, you produce oxytocin; the hormone which facilitates trust and induces a feeling of sexual connection.

Also, while you are in the embrace, you could nuzzle into your partner's neck and take a few deep breaths. If you like his or her scent, this also functions as some sort of aphrodisiac.

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Restrict your touching for the first half hour

A lot of experts believe that in the first 20 to 30 minutes of your making love, you and your partner should not be touching each other below the belt.

The belief is that by doing this, you are able to focus more on kissing and embracing; two things that a lot of people tend to abandon when they just dive into the sex part. Soft touches and kisses stimulates dopamine, which helps boost sexual arousal.

So, when the time does come for sex, you are ready.

Share your fantasies with your partner

You know yourself better than anyone else, and you know what you like. So, why not share them with your partner? Sharing is the best way to make your partner know how to please you, instead of going through several motions which you might not like.

So, be open and let him or her know what gets you into that sweet spot

Masturbate

Oh absolutely. A lot of people believe that masturbating while in a relationship is wrong, but this isn’t true. It could be a healthy sexual outlet, and a proper way to get yourself in the mood.

Try different things in bed

The same routine tends to get boring over time. So, you could try spicing things up. You could role play, try a new sexual position, use toys, anything. Knowledge that you will be doig something new is sure to get you excited.

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